Why You Do Not Have What You Want and How to Get It

The gap between the life you have and the life you want is not a character flaw. It is a strategy gap. Specific, identifiable behaviors are producing your current results. Different behaviors will produce different ones.

1. Develop Your Vision

Most people do not have what they want because they have never clearly defined what they want. They have a vague sense of wanting things to be better. But wanting better and wanting something specific are completely different.

You cannot navigate toward a destination you have not named. Get specific. In every area of your life, define what success actually looks like for you.

That specificity is the first thing that separates the women who get what they want from the ones who keep hoping for something better.

You cannot hit a target you have not defined.

2. Align Your Behavior With the Life You Want

Your current reality is built from your previous choices. Every day of behavior you have put in has produced the life you have right now. Every day of different behavior will produce a different life.

This is also the most empowering truth available to you. Because if your behavior is producing your current results, changing your behavior changes your results.

For each area of the life you want, identify one thing you need to start doing and one thing you need to stop.

3. Build Your Focus Muscle

Focus is the skill that makes everything else possible. And it is a skill. Which means it can be developed.

Every day there are dozens of things competing for your attention that have nothing to do with what you want. You choose what you pay attention to, even if that choice happens unconsciously.

Start making it consciously. When you catch yourself giving energy to something that does not serve what you want, redirect. Over time this becomes the automatic setting that changes what you are able to build.

You are one belief away from a totally different life.